Are we having problems with our marriage? To answer that… we’ll wait a bit. Drama tends to get better ratings than normal, everyday life, but in all seriousness, this is a topic that comes up often in our RV life. How hard is it really to have fun while traveling? To answer bluntly—it depends entirely on the couple.
We’ve all seen tragic stories, like Gabby Petito’s, all over social media. Traveling in a van across the country, sharing the “perfect” images online, but hiding the struggles behind closed doors. Her story is heartbreaking, a sharp reminder that appearances can be deceiving. And it makes you think: if traveling couples can experience such extreme issues, what about the rest of us?
We recently had an encounter that really made me pause. We met a couple who seemed perfectly normal on the surface. We swapped stories, helped them settle into their spot, and went about our day. Then we received a call—something was wrong with their electricity. I decided to go along with Mark, both for company and for fresh air. While Mark worked on the RV, I had a moment alone with the husband. Something was off, and I could feel it immediately.
The husband shared the difficulties they’d faced since starting full-time RVing—the unfair treatment at workamping positions, drug and alcohol issues with bosses, low pay, and constant stress. It was enough to bring the wife to the point of saying she wanted to sell the RV and get divorced. Watching the husband verge on tears, I had no idea what to say, other than, “Take baby steps, give yourselves space, and breathe.” It was a stark reminder that there are always three sides to the truth: His, Hers, and the Truth.
Driving away, I felt a deep, quiet fear. This was the third couple we’ve met who confided something similar. It’s not just a coincidence—it’s a real concern in the RVing community.
So, are we getting a divorce? Not even close. Mark noticed my quiet mood and suggested a walk to talk. I asked him bluntly: Are you happy? Is this life what you envisioned? Are you doing this for me, or because it’s your dream too?
His response was simple and grounding:
“I am so thankful for your dreams. I am so thankful for my dreams. We share the same dream, and we get the honor to live it together. That’s why we’re a success. Our bad day is better than most people’s good days.”
And there you have it. No divorce. But that moment reminded us how hard RV life can be, and how important it is to communicate, respect each other’s needs, and prioritize your marriage.
Lessons We’ve Learned About Marriage on the Road
RV life is not all sunshine and rainbows. Couples need to consider carefully before hitting the road:
Learn to fight without fighting. Timing, tone, and approach matter.
Respect alone time. We’ve structured our days so that I have quiet podcast time in the car, while Mark enjoys music in the truck. He loves his Nintendo Switch, I watch movies or cook in our tiny kitchen. It works.
Don’t let anyone interfere with your marriage. If a couple favors one spouse over the other, RUN. Those dynamics are toxic.
Past accusations are warning signs. If someone constantly talks about affairs, dishonesty, or drama from their past, disengage. You don’t need that negativity.
Agree on responsibilities. I may not park the trailer often, because Mark enjoys it. I help in other ways. Understanding roles reduces tension.
Protect Your Marriage From External Stress
RV life comes with challenges—small quarters, constant travel, workamping pressures—but no external influence should tear your marriage apart. Couples will try to inject their drama, judge your decisions, or manipulate your choices. Protect your bond. Prioritize each other above all else.
We’ve learned the value of boundaries. If someone doesn’t like Mark, they don’t like me—and vice versa. We have each other’s backs, always. We’ve created code words for communication, set boundaries after negative experiences, and proudly say “Bugger Off” to anyone who tries to interfere.
Choosing Happiness Every Day
Life in an RV is a choice, and happiness is too. You don’t have to have the perfect RV, the most followers, or the fanciest setup. You don’t have to visit every destination. It’s ok to fail. It’s not ok to be unhappy.
We’ve seen enough couples struggle because they neglected communication, respect, or mutual dreams. Don’t let yourself become another cautionary tale. We’ve made mistakes, but we’ve learned from them—and that knowledge has protected our marriage.
Coalville, Utah, has been transformative for us. We set ground rules, recognized signs of potential conflict, and learned to stand together. Now, our marriage is stronger than ever.
Practical Advice for RV Couples
Communicate openly. Don’t hide feelings; share respectfully.
Respect alone time. Even in small quarters, find your sanctuary.
Set boundaries. Protect your marriage from toxic influence.
Split responsibilities. Play to strengths; don’t compete.
Prioritize fun together. Be each other’s entertainment and support.
Stay adaptable. Life on the road is unpredictable; flexibility is key.
RV Must-Haves for Couples
If you’re new to RV life or looking to upgrade, we’ve curated some RV essentials that help keep life smooth and fun. From practical gadgets to comfort tools, these items have made our adventures easier. Check them out here: RV Newbie Must Haves (we get associate credit if purchased).
RVing is amazing, but it’s not always easy. For couples, it’s a test of communication, teamwork, and mutual respect. We’re proof that it’s possible to thrive, stay happy, and protect your relationship—even in tiny quarters and long travel days.
Gabby Petito’s story reminds us of the stakes. It’s real. Life is precious, and so is the bond you share with your partner. Fight for each other. Communicate. Protect your marriage. Prioritize happiness, not appearances. And remember, it’s ok to make your own rules, carve out your own time, and say no to people who bring drama.
For us, Me Gone RVing Adventures is more than a name—it’s a journey we take together, with laughter, respect, and love leading the way.
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